OLD TRICKS AND NEW TRICKS

OLD TRICKS: LESS HEALTHY WAY TO RESPOND TO THREAT

Bullying Behavior

• Using physical aggression ranging from threatening gestures to physical blows.
• Verbal abuse such as name calling, cussing, blaming and criticizing.
• Cussing and name calling.

Victim Behavior

• Giving in.
• Staying and letting yourself be hurt.
• Withdrawing and walk away from the threatening event without coming back to deal with the problem.
• Becoming confused and space out.
• Not standing up for yourself but turning your anger on someone else.
• Numbing the anger and denying it.

NEW TRICKS: HEALTHY WAYS TO RESPOND TO THREAT

• Shrugging the situation off and get away.
• Trying to understand why the person did what he did.
• Taking a time out to sort out feelings and possible solutions then returning to deal with the problem.
• Using movement or exercise to release the pent-up feelings.
• Working the anger out through exercise.
• Talking to someone else to sort out the meaning of the threat.
• Observing your own body reactions and thoughts.
• Laughing at the situation or at yourself.
• Taking direct action and attempting to problem solve the threatening event.
• Expressing feelings in a socially acceptable way.
• Setting limits what behavior of an abusive nature will not be allowed.
• Using the event to learn about yourself and the other person.
• See things differently so they do not seem so bad.

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