THE BONY FINGER OF BLAME

Some people can not take responsibility when they do something wrong. They say It's not my fault. It's their fault. They have a bony finger of blame that they point at someone else. The pointing finger of blame that finds blame in others is a habit.

As you grown older, you can feel good about accepting responsibility for your mistakes.

Ideas for You!

• Watch out for bony fingers!
• Don't point your bony fingers at others or at yourself.
• Say what you did. Tell your own part.
• If you did something wrong, admit it. Feel good about being truthful.
• Think like a winner. You are a problem solver, not a blamer.
• Feel special inside knowing you can correct your own goof ups.

Helper Words for Children:

• I find that something in my brain that says it is not safe to look at my part of the problem.
• I take responsibility for what I did. Taking care of my own stuff makes me feel good.
• I own my own mistakes. I clean up my mistakes. I get my goof ups out!
• I can speak up and say what I did wrong. I feel good about admitting when I goofed up.
• I am a problem solver, not a blamer.
• Claiming responsibility equals feeling good.

Helper Words to Feel Good About Stopping Blaming

• I stop blaming others and myself.
• Blaming does not solve the problem.
• Blaming someone else only keeps me upset and angry.
• Blaming others is a way of not respecting others.
• Blaming myself is a way of not respecting myself.
• I tell my feelings and then try to work things out.
• I am a problem solver, not a blamer.

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