Stopped My Mad Attack!
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Mrs. Mad lady
When i was little girl i always to get angries same
from now. My mom and dad say "go to room to have timeout"
and at school i was used have ea becaes i need help
my work and hold my angries out but ea was watching
me outside when i was little to gr.8 but now i will
gr 10 this sept and ea is still watching me in gym to
think not to get anger.
Now i can used the list to make me anger i can do:
picture or poster to what happen to get anger to
pic up in room.
a story or find pic that show anger.
This is good
for me to try help.
- - keep
your voice quiet and slow
- - Think
before you act and "Not" think to get anger before
- - Try
focus and norm people
- - Try
good bulid without anger.
my name is P. and I'm 14 years old even thought I'm
a little older then most kids who write you I find that
every once in a while I need to get the angries out
too. at first I would throw big temper tantrums but
since I realized this didn't help I learned to keep
a journal and write my feelings and thoughts down where
no one could see them but me. and of I was really angry
I would write it down then tare it up. in doing this
I have become a fairly good writer over the past few
years since a lot of people give me the angries I used
my journal quite a bit.
you for having this web site my little sister, A. 11,
is very interested in the ways others deal with being
i get mad a lot. i do a lot of the same things the 8
yr.old Angry Mon does. I have started doing what you
say and it works. THANK YOU!!!! and i also find reading
or running or karate helps.Music will calm me down for
a while, also. Animals are great stress relievers.
~ACA~ 11 yrs old
u can put this on ur site if u wanna
Mrs. Mads Lady,
my brother and me were playing outside and spraying
each other with water. When he was trying to spray me
he accidentally hit me in the head with the bucket.
I got mad, turned around, raised my hand and was ready
to hit him. I didn't though and my brother ran into
the house crying because he was scared.
felt really bad after my brother had ran into our house.
I didn't want to hit him and I'm proud that I didn't
but I still shouldn't have raised my arm.
am 12 years old and I hope you reply.
A. N. V.,
You stopped a mad attack in mid flight. You had the
urge to respond to being hurt with aggression. Something
better in your make up took over and you stopped yourself
from hitting him.
time you stop your anger response or look for a better
way to express your anger instead of hitting, you will
grow in your ability to be in control of your anger.
Lady Who Knows About Mads
I get mad I go in my room. and ignore things The thing
that makes me really mad is that James hurt me when
I was little. I am still mad about it now.
from: J. G. 9 YEADS OLD
WAYS AND THE IMPORTANCE OF CONTROLLING YOUR ANGER BY
S. O. S. (WHOM WHICH BY THESE STUDIES DOES NOT WISH
TO VISIT JUVINILE HALL.)
start off I'd like to say that controlling
your anger takes a lot of work, especially walking away
from the situation. One of my favorite bible verses
is found in James chapter one "My dear brothers
and sisters always be willing to listen and slow to
speak. Do not become angry easily, because anger will
not help you live the right kind of life God wants"
From my experience the only reason you get mad in the
first place is because your friend(s) or a bigger kid
makes fun of you and teases. By then you feel the anger
stirring up within you and you lash out and hurt him
or her in anyway you can to let the angriness out. But
instead of making you feel better it causes nothing
but trouble. Besides that, because of what you did to
that person (maybe it's a friend or someone you like)
they won't trust you anymore.
me give an example. Let's say you were eating your lunch
and the person you most dislike makes fun of you every
day. They look over, tease and embarrass you and as
they do you get so mad it builds up and then you get
the nerve to go over and hit them. By then you are probably
both in trouble. So you're probably wondering how to
stop this. Well, where there's a will there's a way
and I have a way.
of all when feel that you're going to hit or even insult
someone stop and remember that you have a choice. What
I mean by that is you can ether one, hit them or two,
decide to lay off. Another thing you can do is to take
five deep breaths (or at least one) and let the air
out. If either of these does not work try to move to
a spot where they can't get you. If the problem persists
tell an adult nearest you.
If you're wondering why you should follow these instructions
it is all about making sure don't regret ever letting
your anger get the best of you. So I'd advise you don't
do what I did and get grounded for a week and have to
write this essay. When you do get mad at someone remember
too that people are special so treat him or her right.
Things to do if your mads are there: Remember don't
take it out on people or the person you're mad at ether.
When feeling really grumpy go to a place where you aren't
by anybody and sit alone for a few minutes and think
about good things. Here are some other things to try
(From the Angries Out web site):
suggestions visit this website: Get Your ANGRIES Out
And Those Mads, Bads and Grumpies at www.AngriesOut.com
mads don't have to stay inside you. Talk to someone
who can help you sort out the feelings that made
you feel bad.
lots of pictures about what makes you angry. Make
big, colorful angry drawings. Make mad noises when
you draw. BIG, MAD NOISES!
your pictures in the freezer to cool off those mads.
Or let your refrigerator hold pictures of your mads.
on clay or on pillows. Scream and yell and pull
those mads out of your stomach. Let those mads run
down your fists and into the pillow.
out in the back yard and dig a hole. (Or just pretend
to dig in your living room.)
all those mads up and out of you and put them down
in the hole. Then cover them up with dirt and jump
up and down, stomping on the mads. Put your mads
in soap bubbles and blow them away. Watch those
feelings float up to the sun and poof! Act out the
story of your mads with dolls, stuffed animals or
permission to tear up an old magazine. Rip each
page out, one by one as you make "big mad noises."
Then throw those mad feelings away by putting all
the pages in the trash.
permission to put your anger in a raw egg. Write
the name of the person you are mad at on an egg.
Go to a wide-open space and pull up all your mads
to put in the egg. Throw your mads as far as you
can and yell and scream ... "Aaaaagh!"
this is how
I get my angries out. I sit in my bean bag chair grab
a big thick chapter book and ignore all door rings, phone
calls, and homework.
If that doesn't
work I listen to Charlotte Church or talk to my stuffed
animals. Charlotte Church is a classical singer. She has
two CD's out, Voice of an Angel and Jewel.
M.O., Age 9
Dear M. O.,
you that you have figured out what helps with your mads.
At age nine, you are very clever to figure this out. As
you grow older, you may need to figure out new and different
things to do with anger.
I hope other
boys and girls write in and tell us how they gets their
Who Knows About Mads
one day my friends were playing keep away from me! i don't
like it when they play that with me always in the middle.
i got so frustrated i wanted to scream but i knew that
would not solve anything. so i went inside to the rest
room and wet my face, took a deep breath, and held my
breath for as long as i could without feeling out of breath.
i felt so much better. then went back outside and played
jump rope. and from now on i always do that when i am
mad or frustrated. and it works signed,
it out! People tease you only if you agree to be teased!
a time out from the "keep way" game and gave them a message
that you won't keep yourself in a situation where people
are being mean to you. What they did was not a fair game.
It was having laughs at your expense.
the best thing to do is to pick up your marbles and go
Who Knows About Mads
I tear up
old newspaper when I get mad. It makes me feel better,
and I don't get in trouble for making a mess because I
always clean it up.
Hi M. M.,
you in finding a way to release your anger in a safe way.
I hope you learn to talk about your "mads" as well as
tearing up newspapers.
Who Knows About Mads
I wrote on
a piece of paper to Abriel and said that it didn't bother
me anymore that she called me "dent head". Since then,
she has not called me names anymore.
Dear B. J.,
When we stop
giving people power over us, their teasing doesn't work.
You are in charge of whether you let mean words hurt you
or not! You learned to stop taking "denthead" into yourself
and letting it hurt you. You got it!
Who Knows About Mads
who knows about mads,
I am but
14 years of age, and I have the shortest temper you could
ever come along. I am lucky to have friends who understand
this, and stay by my side. But, for a long time, they
would say something offensive and I would get so mad,
or they would say something and I'd take it wrong. (I
don't get violent when mad.)
been telling myself in my head "Get over it, Tink." There
is nothing to be mad about!" and it's working.
any more suggestions you might have?
There comes some times in a person s life when they are
ready for a bout of growing up. This is the time for you
now. That is wonderful. :) :) :)
the pages listed under Grownups on my web site. Be sure
to read Young Women Who Are Angry.
Read This Page. Young Men Too.
Then go to
I Stop My Bully Behavior listed
under Kids and read that and take notes on what ideas
would help you keep your cool. Put those Helper Words
ideas on yellow sticky notes and paste them around your
office or house!
we are as mature as we are willing to be responsible for
all our thoughts, words and actions. You sound as if you
are ready for a growth spurt in maturity! Go for it!
Who Knows About Mads
i sit in
my room with a good book. not speaking to people helps.
you can post
this on your excellent web site.
I was mad
at my friend in my class. I was ready to yell really loud
at her, but I held my anger in and gave her an "I" message.
I told her how I felt and we talked for a bit. I said
if this keeps going on maybe we need a few days off from
each other. I told her if she keeps making me mad maybe
we shouldn't be friends anymore. She is still making me
mad but I'm going to keep telling her how I feel. I am
female, 9 years old in third grade and she has been bothering
me since first grade.
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