A Child Changes!
Lynne Namka, Ed. D. ©
How does a
child make the decision to make changes in his aggressive behavior?
First, someone has to believe in his ability to change. Your belief
in the best that is the child is the magical ingredient in helping
him see himself differently. Teaching him alternatives to handle
conflict will give choices in future situations.
the steps to how a child works through the process of change.
of change has been described as a five stage process by researchers
who examined how people overcome destructive and addictive behaviors.
The stages of changes are:
- 1. Recognize
his own negative response to a problem. (Own his behavior.)
- 2. Learn
about new ways to respond to the problem.
- 3. Make
the decision to stop acting in ways that hurt others. (Feel
good about making positive choices!)
- 4. Watch
himself when conflict comes up again.
- 5. Use
Helper Words to choose more healthy responses.
- 6. Practice
the new responses. Fine tune them. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!
- 7. Reward
himself by feeling good and using positive Helper Words.
- 1. Pre-contemplation:
person is unaware or under aware of their problem and does not
intend to change.
- 2. Contemplation:
becomes aware of the problem and gives serious thought about
changing his behavior. This is the "Maybe I should" stage.
- 3. Preparation:
begins to have strong intentions about change for the future.
- 4. Action:
sets a standard and begins to modify his behavior to overcome
- 5. Maintenance:
The child works keep his behavior to the standard that he
has set. Much recognition and reinforcement will be needed
as the child struggles to maintain his gains in positive behavior.
Behavior change will continue only if the environment encourages
and supports the child's efforts.
What You Can Do To Help Children Change
efforts to teach peace by showing children the best that is in
them. Positive correction techniques that teach social skills
and emphasize good self esteem are your ace in the hole in helping
children change their negative behavior.
of distinction of a master teacher is helping children believe
in themselves and see themselves in positive ways. Add your
own imagination and creativity to use these positive correction
techniques. The Teacher Cues and Helper Words given will show
your children how to get along with each other and build peace
in our world. Your belief in a child's ability to change is
the most important factor!
J., DiClemente, C. Norcross, J. (1992) In search of how people
change. American Psychologist, 47, 1102-1114.
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