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Talk, Trust & Feel
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 Dr. Lynne Namka Licensed Psychologist |
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<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<::<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::> "Life
is a school house. We human beings are the pupils. We are here
to learn about our feelings. This is the Great Human Drama where
we humans learn to balance our emotions."
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"I will land on my feet just like a cat. And if I don't, I'll roll over and spring back up." "There is another side to this. The side I choose to be on is called survival." "We were taught by my grandparents who lived through the depression, "Use it up, fix it or do without." "My grandmother told me when things get tough, kick butt and take names." "No dark hole of helplessness is going to suck me in." Lynne Namka
"Sometimes criticism can throw you off balance. Calm yourself by breathing deeply and go within to look at the issue from a place of wisdom. Check to see what your heart has to say about the matter. Antoine de Saint Exupery said, "It is with the heart that one sees rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." Then make some changes in your standard operating procedure--start operating more from your heart." Lynne
Namka
"I am where I am today because of what I did. I choose to take the consequences and correct what I did. Now I'm caught. Busted! 'Outed for my misbehavior. Ouch! They are getting ready to string me up. Whatever was I thinking? Or was it my ego thinking trying to get me in trouble? I bet it was that conniving ego part of me that wants to keep me separate from myself, others and something greater than myself. Here are the two choices at this point on the Great Trail of Life when you cross that line of your own values and integrity: Face it and fix it or deny it which makes sure that you'll goof up again. Make it a life lesson to be mastered or a repeatable pattern that will mess me up again. Sounds like a no brainer to me. Well golly gee whiz and gosh durn. Here is my favorite quote from super cowboy John Wayne about owning up: "There's right and there's wrong. You get to do one or the other. You do the one and you're living. "You do the other and you may be walking around, but you're as dead as a beaver hat." Lynne Namka
"Negative feelings are transitory; they come and go unless you feed them with unhappy, anxious or angry thoughts. If you give them too much fuel, it is like throwing kerosene on a fire. If you learn to just sit with feelings and hang out without judging them, they lose their power over you."
"You and only you are the designer and developer of your life. You are in control of a large part of your destiny. At times, you are held back by your fears. To walk into the storm of conflict with head bowed and the determination to see where it takes you so that the issue may be dealt with is courage. Courage is facing a short-term discomfort to gain long-term peace."
"Avoidance of uncomfortable feelings because you are afraid of them is an irrational fear that can be challenged. Feelings, even scary ones, can be felt, given a name and then released. One man spoke of dealing with his internal demons that he knew were not real and said, "I'm pacing back and forth in front of my wall of fear. I've got to walk through that door. Yet I know when I reach out and walk through the door of fear, things can only get better. That door of fear is often only a phantom one anyway so go ahead and face it, take a deep breath for courage and then walk right through it. You won't bump your head on it! I promise!"
"We start with our own stories--calling forth our personal folk tales. Telling one's story helps women birth themselves through personal mythology--a tapestry that is unique one's own. In this process, women create their own myths by telling varied stores of their lives. Symbols are chosen on an unconscious level reflecting unresolved themes and patterns of the woman's life, which are to be played through. In this tapestry women weave old metaphors, archetypes and reoccurring themes from ancient legends, fairy tales and the literature of our world to round out their myths."
"Stories have power in helping you understand who you are. So wrap your shawls around those shoulders, which have been weighed down with the burdens of being born and raised female in this world. Listen with your heart to release those burdens you have carried with you since childhood. Invite the story spirits in to assist you in letting go of that which no longer fits you. Square your shoulders and feel your resolve as you lean forward to hear the wisdom of those whose journey has been similar to your own. Lean forward and sharpen your breath as the stories begin."
"Women, today's women, strong-minded women, Most marvelous women, bonding together. Sharing their stories, rewriting their lives to create a peaceful world. We fiercely forge ourselves out of new steel, A magnificent sculpture of feminine fulfillment in the making. We change the meaning of what it means to be a woman. We do it for those women ancestors, who came before, As well as for ourselves, for our children and those who are yet to be. We are the new women, the new, improved model. Women in paradox, taking a new heritage." Lynne
Namka
"All is transitory in life. 'save that which is of the Spirit. Loss can be sobering. It sets us back on our heels--asking us to take stock. But as Virginia Satir said, "Humans are made to integrate loss. Each loss makes another gain," It is through acceptance of losing things, those unessential parts of our life, that we become loose. With grace and understanding, loss can help us to become looser. Loss can help us find a more fluid version of ourselves."
"As Jungian analyst, Marie Louise von Franz said, "Fairy tales are parables of our own journey through life." And we all know on an inner level that a fairy tale a day keeps the dragons away--our own inner dragons of fear and despair."
"Self-exploration is a daily task for those serious about the process of growth as we march down the years. The breakthrough of discovery is finding the inner treasure of introspection, enjoyment of leisure time and self-reformation. It is the breaking down of old structures that no longer fit and finding a new supple aspect of ourselves. We can turn to our symbol-laden unconscious to help deal with the resignation and despair that loss brings."
"Spiritual transcendence is transforming the rigid ego attachments into acceptance of self and others. This is one of the major tasks in later life. Jung's work described this process of being one of Enlightenment where the ego and the self become integrated. Wisdom gained through out the lifetime helps transform losses and suffering through reflection and introspection."
"Integrity is the ability to accept 'one's past choices and actions and go forth and act in accordance with one's deepest values from within. This self-honesty comes from a well-formed conscience which insists on living up to firm standards and values. Integrity insists on affirmation for self and others alike."
"Small fruits shine when we learn to just be in the process of becoming who we are. In process living, we take responsibility for our thoughts, words and actions. We can insist on being pathologically honest with ourselves. We understand release and movement. With a limited amount of time left to be here on this earth, we begin to refuse to take crap from others or from ourselves. We learn to act as if what we choose makes a difference because it does." Lynne Namka
"Resisting feeling your emotions is like feeding them and then bottling them up. Emotions can grow fatter and fatter if they aren't let out in safe ways. If you aren't aware of your feelings, you can act them out in harmful ways. Or you can act them in and become depressed."
"Humans have feelings. 'Loads of feelings. 'All kinds of feelings. That's the miracle of being a human being. We just have to learn to feel our feelings and work with them, 'that's all." Lynne Namka
"The Okays about Feelings for Kids of All Ages: It is okay for you to feel any way you feel. It is not okay to take bad feelings out on others. It is okay for your feelings to change. It is okay to feel sad and angry when you have been hurt. It is okay to feel confused if you don't understand. It is okay to feel scary inside. It is okay to cry when you are hurting. It is okay to ask for help. It is okay for you to take care of yourself It is okay to ask for a hug or to be held. It is necessary that you do something to calm yourself down. It's not okay to act out your feelings when you are upset. It is most certainly okay for you to be yourself. It is okay for you to be who you are." Lynne
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"Bad moods can be catching. They can be contagious just like catching a cold or the flu. You can always leave a situation before you catch other people's bad moods."
"There are two kinds of problems. There are your problems and here are other people's problems. Your business is your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions. Other people's business is what they think, feel and do. You can't control what your parents (or sister, or brother, or friend) think, or feel, or do. So you aren't responsible for them. That's their business. You just have to take care of your own business. Always ask yourself who owns the problem."
"You can be good at finding your feelings. Call them out, feel them for a minute. Feelings come and go. Coming up and going away is their job. Bad feelings always want to move out. So find one and give it a name."
"Swallow your retorts. Don't let them slip past that tip of your tongue. 'Refrain your ego mind that has the unfortunate ability to come up with a zinger designed to put another person or even yourself down. Remember your ego wants you to think that you are clever and special indeed at the expense of others or tries to make you think you are worthless by calling up self-derogatory messages. I've just heard that the best of relationships sometimes suffer from the tooth-marks-on-the tongue syndrome! Challenge those ego retorts."
"We humans are body, mind and Spirit. We are spiritual beings residing in a human body. We are energetic beings and feelings are energies in motion. Energy is the universal natural language of our body. Energy is the life essence--that dynamic force which moves in constant flux and circulates in the body. The natural flowing energies of the body get out of balance with emotional trauma or ongoing stress. We can learn tools to put ourselves back into balance."
"Mental conflict and emotional states around an issue tie up energy, which is then no longer available for creative problem solving. Anger is a complex emotion which is a cry for love and understanding. The ultimate alchemy is releasing those prickly emotions inside to become a person of emotional balance who is capable of loving and being loved and connecting with your deepest spiritual nature and 'your True-Self."
"Daily rituals for healing are part of becoming a loving, calm person. You can set yourself free from unwanted emotions and problems if you are willing to take the time to do the work. There 'are loving spiritual forces around us that are waiting for an invitation to help as described by the anonymous saying, "We entertain angels unawares." You can call on your God, guides and teachers and spiritual deities you believe in from higher realms to assist you in achieving peace. You can download higher frequencies from above through intention and asking for what you want. We can always ask for clarification about an issue that is troubling us. To increase your own healing ability, set your intention for change with love. Take a long, slow, deep breath and hold it while focusing on love. Go deeper into love and see healing as happening now. 'See, feel and experience the power of love plus intention as a powerful change agent in your life." Lynne Namka
"When we are in alignment with what we truly believe, we can stand firm and tall and tell it like it is. This healthy kind of anger sets boundaries, holding others responsible for their actions. You teach people how to treat you through setting all sorts of boundaries or not setting them! Healthy anger can be like a burning sword that cuts through illusions and delusions about a bad situation."
"The energy of healthy anger can point the way to positive change but even more so when you speak in a calm, firm way. Stop and think how you are training people to treat you. The secret of boundary setting is centering yourself, breathing deeply and connecting with your truth to align yourself with higher principles, letting them 'speak through you."
"A boundary is that invisible line that separates you from the rest of the world. Within your boundary is that personal space where you feel safe and secure. In healthy relationships where neither person needs to control the other, both partners have an understanding of fairness and the others person's needs. They grant each other the right to have psychological space and look out for small ways to create happiness for the other person. Boundaries are needed when one partner tries to control the other. When someone invades your space physically or emotionally with discounting your needs, manipulation, bullying or abuse, your personal boundaries are violated. Power and force to get one's way and causes the other person to submit are the hallmarks of boundary transgressions. When you give yourself away taking care of others without looking out for yourself in a relationship, resentment and anger can build up resulting in your feeling like a martyr and victim. You have certain rights of being emotionally and physically safe within any relationship. Assertiveness is always about finding the balance between aggression and submission. My wish for you is healthy boundaries." Lynne Namka
"Virginia Satir said that our Bottom Line is that it is the dysfunctional behavior of another person you will not tolerate that will cause you to leave the relationship. You decide what you will allow and will not allow in your friends, office and family relationships. It is usually a bad character flaw that allows the person to harbor beliefs that allow him to hurt others. You have your own conscience and sense of self-respect to live with. Physical abuse and continual verbal abuse are common Bottom Lines for most people. It's important to let people know what you stand for. It's equally important to let people know what you won't stand for. Asking for what you want and standing up for what you believe are some of the necessary skills for keeping your integrity." Lynne Namka <:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<::<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:: Two quotes from my teacher, the most marvelous Virginia Satir whose legacy on the web is at http://www.satirglobal.org "There are three possible outcomes in each situation--winner, loser or learner. Feelings can be losing, winning or learning. I wish you learning from your feelings... To be conscious of the feelings and the body is to be mindful of the heart." Virginia Satir
"I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen, heard, understood and touched by them. The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand and touch another person. When this is done, I feel contact has been made." Virginia Satir <:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<::<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:::>><<:: Send
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About Lynne: I feel much gratitude for those wise writers whose words have inspired me over my sixty-five years of reading. I'm a spiritual being and happy person who works as a shaman, psychologist and author of nine books on healthy living and spiritual growth. My purpose here is to help others learn to modulate and balance their feelings and grow in consciousness. I am here to serve. All my books and my free weekly newsletter, Inspiration and Transformation which goes out all over the world, are available through my award-winning website AngriesOut.com. 'which features over one hundred articles for children, grownups and teachers on healthy living and anger management.
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