ALL KIDS: To Channel Anger Into Constructive Action
___ To identify and name feelings and use the "I feel _____ when you _____ formula" when appropriate
___ To speak feelings appropriately when feeling threatened but refrain when it's not safe.
___ To deal with others who discount feelings and do not want to listen.
___ To express anger in safe and productive ways that increase self esteem.
___ To change anger constructively to MAD-- Make A Difference

ALL KIDS: To Learn to Contain Excessive Anger
___ To learn to discriminate between big and little deals. (Don't sweat the small stuff.)
___ To realize and accept that you don't always get what you want. (Break into entitlement)
___ To learn to identify irrational thoughts and statements that fuel anger.
___ To break into self-angering thoughts and use cool down thoughts.
___ To learn to analyze and correct mistakes instead of beating self up.
___ To use Thought Stoppage techniques to interrupt intrusive, negative thinking.

ALL KIDS: To Release Current and Old Anger in Effective Ways
___ To displace anger symbolically when it is not safe to express it directly.
___ To use positive displacement of anger and refrain from negative displacement.
___ To use Thought Stoppage techniques to break into self-angering thoughts.

ALL KIDS: To Observe Rather than Over React to Threatening Events
___ To learn to observe and identify body reactions, emotions and thoughts during threat.
___ To use observation of physiological cues to break into anger or fear responses.
___ To find and express sadness, confusion and hurt that may lie under the anger.
___ To analyze the threatening event and identify and break into triggers.
___ To bridge current angers back to old unresolved childhood issues.
___ To stay present in the threat of danger rather than lashing out or stuffing anger.
___ To change the self-angering or self-depreciating meanings given to threatening events.
___ To make self-empowering statements showing resilience to life's stressors.
___ To keep cool when others are trying to push your buttons.
___ To take Time Out when overheated during an argument and then return to problem solve.

THE VICTIM KIDS: To Learn Assertive Ways of Dealing with Threat
___ To stand up and speak assertively when threatened.
___ To say No, state boundaries and Bottom Line, and leave if boundaries are not respected.
___ To shield against the negative energy of name calling and ridicule.
___ To take care of self when others fight. (It's not my problem. It's a grownup problem.)
___ To break into dissociative states of fear and numbing out.
___ To use techniques of self-soothing when upset.



THE BULLYING KIDS: To Learn to Feel Empathy and Respect Others
___ To listen to others when they are upset.
___ To recognize and refrain from actions that are hurtful to others.
___ To stop blaming others when they are confronted.
___ To take responsibility for one's own actions and wrong doings.
___ To refrain from sarcasm, name calling, egg-ons and put-downs.
___ To learn to see things from the other person's perspective.
___ To observe the effect of one's actions upon others and express sorrow for hurting others.
___ To treat others with respect and caring.

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