The Most Important Things To Remember
About Getting Mad!

• I am in charge of my own feelings.
  • I own my feelings.
  • I feel them, name them and then tell them.
  • It is okay to feel angry.
  • I learn how to express my anger in ways that are helpful.
  • Anger is part of being a human being and that's a wonderful thing to be.

• I am in charge of my own behavior.
  • I get my control.
  • I control what I do with my anger.
  • I gain control over how I let my anger out.
  • I watch my thoughts.
  • Hot thoughts keep me angry. Cool thoughts calm me down.
  • I practice cooling off. I learn to chill myself out. I take a chill pill.
  • I feel good about being responsible for chilling myself out.

• I remember people are precious.
  • I stop hurting others or myself with my anger.
  • I watch my thoughts. I watch my words. I watch my actions.
  • I own the hurtful words and actions that I do to others.
  • I learn about things I do when I am stressed and threatened.
  • I stop hurting people with my words and actions.
  • I feel good about treating people with kindness.

• I choose to feel good about myself through speaking out.
  • I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to others and myself.
  • I use my firm and fair words: "I feel ____ when you _____."
  • I tell my feelings and then try to work things out.
  • I feel good about saying what I feel and what I stand for.

• I don't have to hold on to my anger.
  • I find ways to let my anger go.
  • I talk about my hurt feelings and angry feelings.
  • I problem solve things that make me upset.
  • I keep looking until I find someone safe to talk about my anger.
  • I talk about my words and actions that hurt others.

• I take my power!
  • I stand up for myself. I stand up for others who are being hurt.
  • I learn to break into my mean thoughts that I use to beat myself up.
  • I feel good about learning about myself.
  • I am powerful when I use my fair and firm words.

• Rules For Getting Your Mads Out
• Things To Do Later If The Mads Are Still There
• Things To Do If Someone Bigger Starts To Hurt You

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